The Secret to Dealing with People

The biggest secret to dealing with people, what do you think that is? Is it avoiding them? Is it commanding them and letting them know you’re the boss?Or is it showing them how great you are? To be frank the answer is, none of these, there is actually only one way of dealing with people.

   That’s right only one way, you wanna know what that is? The secret to dealing with people or to influence them to take action is this. You encourage them to take action by giving them what they want. Yes, that is the secret, thinking about what the other person wants is the key. There is a couple things we all like and desire food,cash, sex, sleep, health but the one that stands out the most and the one desire we all want is the feeling of IMPORTANCE. It doesn't matter whether you're a girl,man, black, white, child or old we all want to feel like we matter and that we are important.

   Think about it why do you want more cars or more money? Why do people throw luxurious parties or get obsessed with being popular? Why do some people work so hard at their jobs or want to make new things that change the world? Because they want to be great they want to be important they want to be appreciated by others.

   It is in our nature that no one likes to feel less than others. We crave for the attention from our peers to know that we are doing well and that we matter. It is one of those primal feelings that have allowed us to advance society to make the best of life.

   However, in today’s society we are so quick to point out the wrong in others so imagine what it means to actually give some appreciation and I mean real appreciation not flattery. There is a difference, the difference is that flattery makes people more angry because it’s a fake it’s counterfeit and no one likes it because if feels like you're being lied to. Appreciation is sincere it’s real it comes from the heart a person can feel it and tell the difference from flattery by instinct.

  So the best course of action when dealing with another is to give them genuine and sincere appreciation if you can do this you will be able to get on the good side of most people. This will lead the other person to want to reciprocate their feelings by giving you some appraisal or something of value to you. Not only that it will allow you to build more relationships. Think about it this way if someone is happy because of you will they not want to do what you ask them for? Most of the time they won't deny your request because you are someone who has given them the time of day. You made them feel great about themselves and anyone who can do that is worth dealing and keeping around.

The secret of dealing with people is to raise an eager want in them by giving them appreciation.