If you want something don’t criticize

     The first thing that you have to accept as human beings we have a tendency of blaming everything on others. We use it as a defense mechanism to try and justify our actions to exempt ourselves from the criticism of others and ourselves why?Because criticism is a way of enforcing the bad in others it points out faults, it hurts our pride, our vanity and it makes us feel inferior that’s why criticism doesn’t work. Think about it  have you ever tried getting through to someone by pointing out what they were doing wrong? If you answered yes, then you should know that they didn’t really listen to you and even if they did it was only temporary as soon as you left they went back to their old ways.

     The biggest reason it doesn’t work is because it make people feel less IMPORTANT and if you make someone feel less important they will resent you for it.

     That’s the reason you shouldn’t criticize,then what should I do?  How will I ever be able to help someone without criticizing them? The answer is simple, not easy but simple.

     You first catch yourself whenever you’re gonna criticize someone. Realize that you’re no better than they are if you were in their situation you would do the same things they did.

     Instead of criticizing them at first glance figure out their train of thought ask them questions and make suggestions without attacking them. Let them know that you understand mistakes happens they’re only human and try to see things from their perspective there is always an answer to a problem when you can see from many ways. Let me give you an example. 

      President Hoover was once flying an airplane and he decided to check it when it started malfunctioning. He then realized the airplane had been fueled with jet fuel instead of gasoline. This made him angry as he almost died in the middle of his flight from the malfunction. He then went to see the man that was servicing his craft and let him know that instead of firing him or criticizing him he would let him have another shot at the aircraft to make up for his mistakes.

     This probably let the other man know that he wasn’t being judged it let him see the mistakes for himself and if there is one way to help someone do what you want to is by making them want to do it.

     So whenever you feel your anger get the best of you don’t criticize don’t condemn, don’t throw negativity realize that you aren’t perfect and would have done the same. Be understanding sympathize with their situation and you will be able to get to a conclusion much faster that way.