Arguments Can't be Won, So Don't Win Them

Can you really win arguments? My humble opinion is that you truly can't win them. When you start trying to let the other person see that you are right there will naturally be resistance. Why? because you're telling them they are wrong and you are right and no one likes to be wrong. On top of that even if you were right what's the point you're not really gonna change the persons mind and they won't wanna do what you want.

So then how do you win an argument? Here comes the big revelation you don't get in the argument to begin with. It's that simple you don't get in arguments if you do then there will be no clear winner. You won't get what you want and neither will the other person because it turns into a competition of who's right. In this case neither is, it's a lose-lose situation where you come off with more resistance and they do the same. Now there is a difference between an argument and a disagreement. In a disagreement you can take a couple steps to make sure that you can come to a conclusion and won't escalate to an argument. 

Alright so let's go over them:

1. Welcome the disagreement- The first thing you must do is be open minded if someone is disagreeing with you it means that they have a different perception on the issue at hand. Be open minded if this is being brought to your attention it may very well be that you are mistaken about something and they're trying to help go the right way so be willing to hear their side out. 
2. Control your feelings- Your first reaction to what they tell you isn't probably gonna be something you like  to hear so rather than letting your emotions take over you stay calm. A clouded mind can't intake and analyze the information correctly if you get emotional. So don't let the emotions get the best of you. 
3. Listen attentively- In order for you to get them most out of the disagreement you must be listening with intent to the other side. The best way to do this is to keep open and empathize with the other side. Keep in mind that not everyone sees your point of view so it's important to try and understand their universe. 
4. Look for areas of agreement- You can't disagree on everything so look for common  ground you can both agree upon this will disarm tensions change the mood of the conversation in order to be able to see and accept thing further down the conversation. 
5. Admit that you're wrong- If you made a mistake or think you made a mistake admit that your wrong it takes courage to admit that you're wrong. This will however allow you to learn and it will let the other person know that you do care for their input and appreciate the time they took to let you know. 
6. Think it over and thank the other person-Let the other person know that you seriously take their word in mind by letting them know that you will take action and analyze what they have told. Now finally thank them which will then end  the conversation and once again show your appreciation for having a productive conversation with you. 

Now that you know how to go about it don't let yourself be a reactive person. Learn to not let any disagreements get the best of you. This will allow you to grow as a person and not only that you will make friends. Plus people will want to approach and talk to you anytime because they will know you are a flexible person. Remember the best way to win and argument is by not starting the argument at all.